Until now, you may have felt you had TWO choices:

1. live on her terms, focusing on her, chasing after her withheld love, affection, and acceptance

2. go “no contact”

I suggest you have a THIRD option:

Decode the hurtful and confusing behavior. Apply your new understanding of what’s really happening (hint: it’s about her, not you.) Learn and use your new tools and strategies to live your life on your terms.

Start moving forward today!

Have Better Interactions

Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism equips you with the tools to:

• Defuse the drama in your interactions
• Establish and maintain better boundaries
• Counteract gaslighting and manipulation
• Navigate emotional outbursts and silent treatments
• Respond to hurtful comments and put-downs
• Understand and heal from hurtful family dynamics
• Strategize conversations for positive outcomes
• Recognize how past experiences may still affect you today

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I grew up with a mother who had deeply hurtful narcissistic traits. At the time, of course, I didn’t have the language to understand what I was experiencing.

As an adult, I began a healing journey to recover from the impact of neglect, mistreatment, and trauma. Through my ongoing personal growth, I gained understanding by learning information that I wish I had learned earlier in my life. I want to share those lessons with you because having a mother with narcissistic traits makes it difficult for us to get the love, nurturing, and acceptance we need as children. This negatively impacts our ability to develop a healthy sense of self and self-worth, which affects our adult relationships.

YOU ARE LOVABLE

As children, we learned to earn love by fulfilling our mother’s expectations and doing the things that pleased and appeased her. But it was usually never enough.

Now, as adults, we may find ourselves continuing to do those same things that earn others’ love, attention, and affection. We may judge ourselves harshly, struggle with making decisions, or dislike, ignore, or neglect ourselves. We may take unnecessary risks, become attracted to people who aren’t good for us, minimize ourselves so others can feel good, and put ourselves last, if at all. We may suffer from anxiety, physical or mental health challenges, and other trauma-related symptoms. And we may secretly fear being alone. Even when we find ourselves in one-sided, unfulfilling relationships, it feels impossible to leave.

YOU MATTER

If any of this sounds familiar, you are not alone. If you feel manipulated, in a power struggle, never good enough, or there is unkindness in your relationship with your mother, this book can help.

If you second-guess your memory, doubt your judgment or sanity, or continually seek your mother’s withheld love, affection, attention, or approval, this book can explain why and help your relationship improve.

There was never anything unlovable about you as a child. You deserved better.