Break Free from the Cycle of Emotional Manipulation, Rejection, and Guilt

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Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism is a must-read for those who are struggling with a painful, confusing, or dissatisfying relationship with their mother. The author, a survivor of a narcissistic mother, walks with you on this journey of discovery and healing. She offers not just empathy and support but also practical strategies to help you reclaim your life. This book is your roadmap to understanding the true nature of your relationship with your mother and breaking free from the cycle of emotional pain.

Diane offers personal insight and shares her strategies with those who also struggle with this type of relationship. With her depth of experience and compassionate approach, she provides an invaluable guide for those who are struggling with their relationship with their mother.

The series is an indispensable resource for anyone looking to better understand their mother. It provides a workable approach to learning how to handle their relationship’s difficulties. Each book provides crucial tools for managing the effects of growing up with a neglectful, toxic, rejecting, abusive, or self-absorbed mother.

Ultimately, our childhood experiences can shape our attitudes and behaviors in profound ways, and it may take a great deal of effort to overcome the negative effects of a narcissistic mother.

Healing Begins with Awareness, Understanding, and Action



As an adult, I began a healing journey to recover from the impact of neglect, mistreatment, and trauma. Through my ongoing personal growth, I gained understanding by learning information that I wish I had learned earlier in my life. I want to share those lessons with you because having a mother with narcissistic traits makes it difficult for us to get the love, nurturing, and acceptance we need as children. This negatively impacts our ability to develop a healthy sense of self and self-worth, which affects our adult relationships.



As children, we learned to earn love by fulfilling our mother’s expectations and doing the things that pleased and appeased her. But it was usually never enough.

Now, as adults, we may find ourselves continuing to do those same things that earn other’s love, attention, and affection. We may judge ourselves harshly, struggle with making decisions, or dislike, ignore, or neglect ourselves. We may take unnecessary risks, become attracted to people who aren’t good for us, minimize ourselves so others can feel good, and put ourselves last, if at all. We may suffer from anxiety, physical or mental health challenges, and other trauma-related symptoms. And we may secretly fear being alone. Even when we find ourselves in one-sided, unfulfilling relationships, it feels impossible to leave.



If any of this sounds familiar, you are not alone. If you feel manipulated, in a power struggle, never good enough, or there is unkindness in your relationship with your mother, this book can help.

If you second-guess your memory, doubt your judgment or sanity, or continually seek your mother’s withheld love, affection, attention, or approval, this book can explain why and help your relationship improve.

There was never anything unlovable about you as a child. You deserved better.

You cannot change your mother, but you can change how you interact with her.


Until now, you had TWO choices:

1. live on her terms, focusing on her, chasing after her withheld love, affection, and acceptance

2. go “no contact”

I suggest you have a THIRD option:

Decode the hurtful and confusing behavior. Apply your new understanding of what’s really happening (hint: it’s about her, not you.) Learn and use your new tools and strategies to live your life on your own terms.

Start moving forward today!

Have Better Interactions

Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism equips you with the tools to:

  • Defuse the drama in your interactions
  • Establish boundaries that are respected
  • Counteract gaslighting and manipulation
  • Navigate emotional outbursts and silent treatments
  • Respond to hurtful comments and put-downs
  • Understand and heal from hurtful family dynamics
  • Strategize conversations for positive outcomes
  • Recognize and heal trauma signs

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I’m excited to announce that many international booksellers are offering all of the books. Check with a bookstore in your local area.


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What Readers Are Saying About Lemon Moms…

A brilliantly written book that addresses a unique trauma. It provided the psychological antidote I wanted. Diane Metcalf writes with confidence and clarity. Her compassionate voice will be a soothing balm for many broken and hurting hearts.

Romuald Dzemo

It is almost impossible to find words to describe my reading experience of ‘Lemon Moms.’ At times it triggered emotional responses- I personally relate, having grown up with a narcissistic family member. The author has a brilliant gift to share and I’m especially struck with the grace she shows. All I can say is: “Thank You & WOW.”

Judy Paling

Best Selling Author

While the title of this book playfully refers to “lemon moms,” a play-off on lemon or defective vehicles, this is serious information. Metcalf treats the reader as an intelligent friend, guiding them through experiences that as a child the reader may have been taught to believe were normal. 

Victoria Irwin

Editor in Chief,

Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism is one of the best books I have read on this sensitive topic of maternal narcissism.

Anita Oommen

Award-Winning Author

This book is terrific. I recommend it to all my patients who are working through these kinds of issues.

Bernard B.Kahan, M.D.

Adolescent and Adult Psychiatry

A brilliant book – I recommend the whole series. They’ve helped me understand and start to recover from the insidious abuse of a narcissistic mother. I have so much gratitude 🙏🏼 ❤️❤️❤️


Cumbrian Artist

I have, in the past, explained my parenting by sadly saying that my children had been raised by someone with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, me. So this book was an eye-opener for me. This book outlines the effects of having lemon parents. I am enjoying doing the post-chapter action steps to get a handle on this for myself. Thank you, Diane, for this book. Its effects will be far-reaching.

Kathleen Israel

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This was an excellent resource on my road to recovery from complex PTSD (childhood trauma). Diane is a great writer and “dumbed down” all the psychological terms to make them easier to understand. I read this book in less than a week. I couldn’t put it down. I highly recommend this to others if you think you could have been raised by a narcissistic mother.

Jo D

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My sister and I have dealt with narcissistic, verbal, physical abuse and just a complete genuine lack of maternal love via our own mother our entire lives. This book helps you realize that you are not alone and that there are ways to begin the healing process-no matter what stage of life.

Strongly recommend. I ordered a copy for my sis as well.


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Very well written, has given me insight and learning and helped me overcome some of my traumas, has been helpful in my journey to health and wellness. I would like to add that within minutes of starting this book, everything clicked into place. Reading this has opened so many doors and unblocked so many areas, of confusion; I have no words to describe my joy in finding this tool for LIFE. Be Blessed.


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Icks, Personality Quirks, or Warning Signs? How to Know the Difference.

Your Crash Course in Relationship Self Defense

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Empower yourself. Prioritize your well-being. Start building a future free of toxic relationships.

Learn how to avoid getting involved in relationships that don’t feel good and don’t meet your needs, and learn what to do if you’re already in one.

Find out how to spot manipulators, cheaters, narcissists, liars, and non-nurturing, unsupportive, self-absorbed individuals.

Avoid relationship frustration, unrealistic expectations, coercive control, incompatibility, and dissatisfaction.

Know the relationship red flags before you get involved with someone who might turn out to be emotionally unavailable or just plain incompatible with your values and principles.

This book shows you how to master the art of safeguarding your well-being in all types of relationships—whether with family, friends, colleagues, or romantic partners. 

The warning signs are in here.

What Readers Are Saying About Red Flags

Diane provides a validating framework for us to gain a deeper understanding of warning signs. She creates a safe haven to explore, and explains the cues, attitudes and behaviors that can alert us to potentially damaging relationships. We are sensitively led through the spectrum of individual differences, identifying potential danger, the symptoms of distress and trauma, and the ongoing process of healing.

–Hollie Ann Brooks

Licensed Mental Health Counselor, LMHC
“Red Flags” is for anyone who wants to build healthy and fulfilling relationships. It equips readers with the tools to recognize warning signs and make informed choices.

–Sophie Davis-Becker


What a fabulous book! I wish I had this when I was dating years ago. Times have changed, and terms have changed but people have not. I also wish this was available for my daughters!

–Marlene Gross-Ackeret

This book’s emphasis is on empowering readers. It not only highlights the warning signs but also provides practical strategies and advice on how to address them. It feels like you have a trusted friend by your side, supporting you along the way.

–Olivia Johnson


One of the things I really appreciate about this book is its practical approach. The book covers a wide range of red flags, including emotional manipulation, lack of communication, and controlling behavior, among others.

–Emily Thompson


The book is wonderful, and I wish I had known all this before I agreed to marry!

–Gayle Shinder